Often after couples have been married for a couple of years, their sex drives nosedive. Both have busy work schedules and are not able to find the energy for sex. Sex seems to be more of a chore than an act of pleasure, with couples indulging in it only on ovulating days, to make a baby. Whatever happened to all that passion Why did it just dry up

Sometimes when you think about it, you really don't care that you're not having sex as often as you did and this is even worse. To enjoy a true closeness and passion, it helps if you are intimate sexually. Couples who are deliriously happy in their marriage and still glow with love, are, in all possibility, still having sex, whether it's five, fifteen or twenty-five years down the line.

How do you keep the passion alive Don't expect it to happen naturally. Unless you or your partner have a very high sex drive, it won't. You will have to work at it.

Take time out

Keep time aside for having sex. Don't put pressure on each other that you have to have intercourse, even just foreplay will do. What is essential is that you keep that time aside just for each other.

Dress sexy

Use physical props to get each other in the mood. Don't expect your husband to want to tear off your completely asexual nightgown and granny underpants five years down the line. When you were just married, all it took was your presence. Now, it's going to take more to get each other in the mood. Sameera, who had been married for four years, and who was tired by the lack of interest in sex shown by her husband, decided that she was going to take matters into her own hands. She invested in a sexy dress with a deep neck, and in a push up bra that showed as much cleavage as she dared display in public. She even wore stockings with garters, and when sitting in the car with her husband on the way home, cleverly maneuvered the slit to show off her garters. The combination of her looking so sexy through the evening and being so outrageous, turned him on, and that night they had incredible sex. If you are a sober dresser, this approach may not work for you. You could, however, invest in sexy lingerie instead. Throw away those oversized night dresses and invest in some slinky teddies.

Get naughty in public

Some people get turned on by getting 'naughty' in public. While obvious displays of affection are annoying, who is going to notice a meaningful licking of the lips while staring at your partner, a pat on the butt or an explicit sexual sentence whispered into a partner's ear The very fact that your spouse can't take you there and then will drive him crazy with lust.

Talk dirty

Does your partner get turned on when you talk dirty to him Surprisingly, not many Indian women or men know the answer to this question. There's nothing wrong with talking dirty if it's going to get a rise out of him. He's your husband after all, so break out of the traditional mould and be bold and daring at least in bed! You deserve a good sex life!